Men, if a woman has sex with you on the first date do you lose respect for her or instantly put her in the hoe category? Women, have you ever held out just because you wanted to maintain respect even though you really wanted to go there?
Is there anything wrong with two adults doing what adults do, on the first date? How may that affect your perception of each other? In my opinion, most of us have or will live a wholesome lifestyle and a more adventurous lifestyle during brief or rotating phases in our lives. Just because you met her and she was living without inhibitions, may not mean that she is a hoe that can’t be turned into a housewife. Or if he was sowing his royal oats at one point may not mean that he is incapable of being your everything.
Some men have what it takes to get women in bed quicker than other men. So given individual skill-sets, men tend to have varying batting averages. If it normally takes you a long while to get to that intimate level with women, you probably struggle with making a women feel comfortable and sexy. You may need to focus on building trust and exuding sensuality without the pervert overtone. This is a difficult balancing act if it doesn’t come naturally, but well worth the effort.
I tend to focus on romance and emotional connections and never focus on sex. On average, women view sex as an expression of something deeper. Hence, if we men focus on the deeper points, then sex will naturally follow. Given this, I rarely think of sex on the first date as being a negative reflection of her. It often times represents the deeper connection that we may share. The question afterwards is, “where do we take this connection from here?”
August 7th, 2010 in
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1. I am sometimes scared of the dark
2. I love to read, I have over 300 books on my bookshelf
3. I wet the bed until I was 11
4. I’m afraid of love, but I fall easily
5. I am a reality junkie- I record almost every freakin reality dating show
6. My ultimate goal in life is to get a star on the Hollywood walk of fame
7. My juvenile felony record is sealed
8. I went to Madrid and Paris when I was 16 for foreign language class
9. I’ve been know to have a bit of road rage
10. My all time favorite show and game is MASH
11. I curse way to fucking much
12. I sometimes go too far, hence this list of 10 is actually a list of 12
August 6th, 2010 in
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Date number #1 – Coffee, juice bar, drinks, the beach. Spend no more than 3 hours of wages or $50.
Date number #2 – If date #1 had an inconclusive emotional connection, repeat #1. If there was a good connection, Spend 4 hours of wages or $75.
Date number #3 – If you are really feeling this woman and she has given you a reason to think she is feeling you, and not just using your money for entertainment on a Thursday night, Spend as much as you want.
Date number #4 – There is no date #4. She must ask you out and offer to pay. If she doesn’t pay by date #4 you may visit, hang out with her and meet her places and go dutch on the bill. If she questions you about paying, tell her that you don’t want to interfere or interrupt her independence, and you want to give her an opportunity to prove that money is not an object between you.
When you first begin to get to know her, make a CD of 2 romantic songs. Play it once or twice every time you are with her for the first 4 or 5 dates. Consciously, but not obviously, be attentive to her when those songs play. Hold her hand, complement her, kiss her hand or neck, look at her deeply in admiration.
On your way to drop her off one night, play the CD, pull over on a quiet street, walk around to her passenger door, open it, take her hand and help her out of the car, ask her “May I have this dance?” Slow dance on the spot. Softly sing the words in her ear and change the words to include her name.
August 5th, 2010 in
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I’ve received a bit of hater mail as of lately. The hater mails all seem to point to the notion that I think I’m some kind of expert, falsely perfect or that I’m saying I got all the answers. Quite contraire…I’m just as lost as everyone else. This site is just a light to help guide not only my readers, but me too. I don’t have answers to give; I just have suggestions to share. Given the fact that we all have, or have had a dark side, I’m reserving this article for those of us who have something SCANDALOUS to share. Anonymously place comments below that exhibits how scandalous you have been in the past. Change the names to protect the guilty.
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I don't know what to call her
This 4th of July weekend is for family to get together and enjoy our nation’s independence. So that’s what we did. But this year was particularly difficult for me. My husband, me, our three children ages 2, 4 and 6 all packed into the SUV and drove a whole 4 minutes to the “other child’s” house. It was her 3rd birthday on the 3rd. Yes that is correct…awkward. The little girl is a sweet innocent child and the mother, after all the drama, is now overly nice to me. But I just don’t know what to call the “other child”. Step-daughter, my daughter’s sister, the Otha’ baby? We’ve coined the term “baby mama”, now we need to make up a term that means the same but may be a bit less harsh than “Bastard child”.
When we walked into her backyard where the party was, it was like the music just stopped with an irritating scratch werrr! All eyes were on me. I felt like everybody there knew this secret for years when I didn’t. The mother has 4 sisters and lots of aunt’s and they just kept staring. I held my head high and smiled at every one of them, but inside it was killing me. Read the rest of this entry »
Blood diamond
Are your people rulers or slaves? There are two opportunities of wealth building and one inopportune option of meager existence:
1. Original asset discovery or creation.
2. Services to discovered/created original assets
3. A subset that does not create substantial wealth we will refer to as Non-Substantive Laggard deValued Employment (NSLVE), this term is to depict the opportunities of employment that feeds families and pays rents, yet rarely ensures wealth of future generations or purchases appreciating assets.
Once you discover the Original asset, you can then exploit it if you infuse intellectual capital, which is the intelligence to harness wealth from the asset. This is the Capitalistic race to the next best wave of wealth. The battle against this force of futuristic opportunity is the current wealth structure that tends to protect its market share by eliminating demand for alternative products and services. The best example of this is the oil industries resistance to alternative fuel sourcing. Read the rest of this entry »
June 27th, 2010 in
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Throughout history man has stored women for his personal adventure, to quench a thirst that appears to be sexual, but is actually much deeper of a thirst than just a mere act. As I watch movies such as The Prince of Persia, and read history books describing the Qing Dynasty, I question. We witness the fantasy of a room filled with beautiful women whose only objective is to appease the King. We men in modern day all feel as if we are Kings in one form or another. We revel in the thought of it all. But is this fantasy unobtainable, or are there men who have such a life? Not in the middle ages, not in the Middle East, not after a Muslim jihad sacrifice, but right here in 2010 on this American soil?
Yes we do. You’d venture to think that the number of women who would subject themselves to such a life are diminishing. With the independence of women, and the less tolerance for male inadequacy, you may guess that concubines are virtually impossible. Even the pimp game has run its course. That industry in Nevada has women who are more times than not, better paid and in more control than their patrons.
The modern day concubine is a strong and independent woman with her own money and is in “full” control of her life. Read the rest of this entry »