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If you don’t know her favorite flower, you are doing something wrong.

Or, if you are doing something wrong, you better know her favorite flower.

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Actually my philosophy in sending flowers is that men should never send them when she is mad at you. When men do something wrong and send flowers, it seems to me to come off as weakness. So you ask her to forgive you because of the good feeling the flowers brought her.  I’d rather send flowers only when everything is great between us. That way, the good feeling the flowers bring will be added to the good feeling I bring.  This will encourage her to appreciate me even more.  Additionally, when things are going wrong and she gets no flowers, there is more reason to work hard and not give up on the relationship, because when it is good, it is great.

In fact, the very best time to send flowers is when she is going through a tough time outside of you two.  This will let her know that you empathize with her struggles and that you are there to support her when she really needs you the most.

Now if she is the type of person who is struggling at work and bringing that mess and dumping it on you, you can send her flowers with a note-

 “I am here for you, to weather the storms with you.  
Please let’s keep us strong and not turn on each other during outside crisis.   
God loves you through me”

 OR

 We are running away from pain, which will never end in pleasure 

He can only satisfy 80% of her emotional needs

CAN YOU DEAL WITH THAT?

For guys: I expect all males to be rockin Jersey’s, stuntin’ up in ya White T (XXXL smallest size acceptable), anything FUBU, Ecko, Rockawear, High/low top Jordans or Dunks, Chains, Jorts, stunner shades, 59 50 hats, Tats, etc.

For girls: For those of you who are unfamiliar with ghetto chicks-Ghetto chicks usually have gold teeth, start fights and drama, and wear cheap clothes – they consider Baby Phat to be high class and expensive couture. They also have short, nappy hair, and usually wear cheap weave, usually in bad colors, such as purple or bright red. They look and act similar to Shenaynay, and speak very loudly, while rolling their neck, and waving their finger in your face. Ghetto chicks have a very limited vocabulary, and attempt to make up for it, by forming new words, such as “constipulated”, or simply cursing persistently, or using other types of vulgarities, and making noises, such as “hmmg!”, or smacking their lips, and making other angry noises,grunts, and faces. The objective is for all you lovely ladies to look, act, and essentially take on these “respectable” qualities throughout the day.

Several of the regents condos will be teaming up to house this monstrosity, so travel house to house and experience the various elements of life in the ghetto.

We will be serving 40’s, Kegs of Natty, dat Purple Drank- which consists of sugar, water, and the color purple , chicken, coolade, and of course Watermelon. So come one and come all, make ya self before we break ya self, keep strapped, get yo shine on, and join us for a day party to be remembered- or not. ”

University of California, San Diego
OFFICE OF THE VICE CHANCELLOR – STUDENT AFFAIRS
February 16, 2010
SUBJECT: Condemnation of Off-Campus Party and Affirmation of Principles of Community

We were distressed to learn that over the weekend an offensively themed student party, mocking the commemoration of Black History Month, took place off campus. We strongly condemn this event and the blatant disregard of our campus values. Although the party was not a UC San Diego student-organization sponsored event, participants did include UC San Diego students and that causes us great concern.

Update: 02/25/2010
SAN DIEGO—Hundreds of students are demanding action after staging a protest at the University of California, San Diego over a party that mocked Black History Month.
Students from several universities took part in Wednesday’s noisy but peaceful rally at the UC San Diego campus. Hundreds of students attending a campus-sponsored “teach-in” on tolerance walked out to join the protest.

Protesters, some wearing T-shirts that read “Real pain, Real action” demanded the school do more to fight racism and attract blacks, who comprise less than 2 percent of the population.

The power to stop a targeted group lies within Institutional racism. Where there is a systematic rejection of opportunity. I will prove that this power does not exist as an adversary of African-Americans.

The key to understanding is how these groups or institutions are established. In order to defeat your enemy, you must first identify him. Look at the things that he actually does to hold you back. Understand his perspective, where he is getting his information from, and where his true alliances are. Once you see this you’ll be in a better position to realize what he is really trying to protect.

If you find that his establishment or source of power comes from his own hard work and sacrifice, you must respect that. If you find that his group is not the only group that has amassed a decent amount of security by way of controlling assets or industries, then you’ve got to respect them as well. Are those other groups advocates, adversaries or indifferent to African-Americans? Remember we are identifying the who, why and the how.

With this thought process you start to realize that capitalism is a team sport. There is no individual that does it all alone. Immigrant groups come to this country and they concentrate in a particular geographic region or neighborhood. They discuss how to maintain their culture, assimilate into the mainstream and how to engage in enterprise to bring in capital. They may start out as workers, then owners who hire their own people. They may unionize and eventually fight for better conditions. They may pay lobbyist so their voice can be heard. They may fund additional education for their new immigrants or young children. The groups that are successful at this are successful overall. How are these groups affecting, assisting or interrupting the African-American assent?

The next thing we must look at is the African-American as a group/culture. With the new found information from above, we compare what African-Americans are doing to each other,  for each other and with each other on the street, in the home and intergenerationally. We look at if they are embracing the healthy aspects of their culture while diminishing the negative. We look at if they are playing into the stereotypes or are they actively defeating them with contrary representation.  Are the successful African-Americans doing all that they can to promote and create a path for others to follow? Are they effective in assisting others in overcoming the shortcomings of their community? Or are they exploiting, assimilating, marrying outside of their race and half-hazardly giving money to causes just to satisfy their guilt?

The point is, post civil rights, post affirmative action, and during the Obama era, if you are discriminating against yourself, you can not complain that others are treating you the same way you are treating yourself. Why get outraged when a police officer kills one black male, but say nothing when 500 are slain by other African-Americans? In America, the opportunities are only where YOU make them. If you don’t do that, you have no one to blame but yourself…but remember this is a team sport.

It may be difficult for African-Americans to get admitted to some Universities in this post affirmative action era. But we have 105 historically black universities in the United States. It may be more difficult for an African-American to obtain loans, even with the same credit score as a counterpart. But African-Americans (people in certain zip codes) historically have more volatility in their income due to being subject to relationship fluctuations, employment terminations and longer bouts of unemployment between jobs.   Which are partially caused by African-Americans reluctance to go above and beyond to do more than “just enough”, play the political game, or better yet start their own enterprise and hire their own people all while being competitive.

The industries that African-Americans dominate are ones that are driven by emotion and passion, such as the arts. Even within our successes, we find a way to assist in our self-oppression by perpetuating and glorifying the negative.  Yet in the industries that require less emotion and more focused intellect and politics such as Math, science and sales, African-Americans don’t fare as well.

Institutional racism no longer exists because African-Americans have failed to build their own institutions. No one needs to hold a man down that is unwilling to stand up.  What do you think?

Our fierce leader and most committed Public Servant Hero

The first, but not the last, African American President, Barrack Obama.

It is Heroic to fight for a country that you love, even when the country sometimes doesn’t love you.

A graduate of Polytechnic Institute of NYU, Burns also holds a master of science degree in mechanical engineering from Columbia University. She serves on several professional and community boards, including American Express, The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University, MIT, the U.S. Olympic Committee and the University of Rochester.

What an example…bravo

Regardless of if you pray to Saints, Jesus or Allah; if it brings you peace at heart and harmony with nature, it is complete.