this is what soulmates do
One quiet night after you turn out the lights and before you go to sleep, recite her a story beginning with chapter one, “When I first laid eyes on her”, take the story through to where you are right now. Fill in the intimate details of what captivated you, how nervous you were on the first date, and maybe even the very moment you fell in love with her.
Chapter two, “The small lows pale in comparison to the high heights of our good times” as you explain challenges may attempt to interfere but nothing can come between our love and life long commitment to be supportive in our victories and comforting in our defeats. We understood that when God gets busy, the devil gets anxious.
Chapter three, “As I lay here on my death bed” with the enormous love from our great-great grand children surrounding me in this year 2084 I tell them this story of the greatest love ever. I reminisce about how I always joked with her that I’d outlive her. She died a short while ago. But when she did I had a sky window placed above our bed so that she can look down upon me with protection while I rest. Sometimes in the middle of the night when the moonlight is just right I can see 
her perched on a cloud as if it were the hand of God, looking down from the heavens with arms stretched out for me. I comfort her with “Soon baby, soon we will be together again”. From our prior lives, to this life, and on to the next one, we will be together forever, this is what soulmates do. Read more
My conversations with white women
I was at a party when a white girl that had been on my blog approached me and begin to talk about my views on interracial dating that I expressed in an article called “Interracial dating – its not always black and white”. After reading that article she was quite versed on my view of interracial dating, but she had no comprehension of the motive behind my view. We’ll call her Jenny, she goes on:
“Three of my five ex-boyfriends were Black, and I think that in America you should be free to date whoever you want regardless of race. Jermaine, you are a leader of your people and you should use your voice for good, not for bad ideas, love not hate, equality not discrimination.”
I tried to defend myself with a simple explanation that I have absolutely no problem with interracial couples and that I actually like to see love regardless of how it happens. Jenny was not convinced, and she continued to lean into me hard. I thought she may chill out when my wife arrived, but she didn’t let up at all. Read more
The Psychology of Pain within relationships
Pain is a source of personal bonding between human beings. This may be counter intuitive to most, but let’s take a deep look at the effects of physical and emotional pain on a relationship.
Firstly we must state that there is a range of responses that can occur. In general terms, the average feminine, or submissive roll player is on one side of this range. The general masculine gender roll player is on the other side. The major difference between the two sides is that the feminine side appreciates pain inflicted by the other party, and the masculine side better appreciates mutual shared pain that is normally brought by an outside source.
The feminine side can endure more pain brought by the opposite partner within the relationship and at times feel more connected to the inflicting partner. This is why the pain of child birth is not a deterrent for mothers, but it is a catalyst to the mother/child bonding process. We may have died out as a species if we were dependent on men to endure such physical pain while giving birth. It is questionable if men would ever willingly go through the pain of child birth. The masculine side best bonds with a partner when they both endure emotional or physical pain brought from an outside force. Such as financial struggle and sacrifice to accomplish a greater goal. This is exhibited during team sports or nation/gang warfare where the team fights and struggles to overcome an adversary together.
In male-female relationships, women can arguably endure more abuse from the man relative to his ability to take pain inflicted by the woman. As a defense, she may love harder, and he may become emotional withdrawn. An example is the tolerance of cheating between women and men. This emotional pain is relatively unbearable for a man to deal with when he finds out his woman has stepped out on him. Another example, many of us may have bore witness to a situation where a woman refuses to leave an abusive man. Women who have been prematurely exposed to such abusive force often carries the ideology that doubts the love of a partner that fails to inflict some kind of pain. Read more
Roses Are Red – Add your own poem
Roses are red and Violets are blue
This may be common but what does it mean to you
To break it down it is to appreciate the simple things
Beauty of life’s vibrant colors, sweet smells, the way birds sing
The evolution of the living to survive
The borne desire within us to strive
The love that we receive from our mother
The warmth created by being close to one another
No matter the complexities of the cards you are handed
To not enjoy the simple beauties of the world is not recommended
The intensity of the life you live
Is in direct accord to the effort you give
So live every moment with a vigorous passion
Be blessed with every bloom, sunset, and personal interaction
Some Roses are red and few Violets are blue
So take the time to notice them and to your self be true
Interlude
I see you at the mall getting your nails done. You look up and see me as I stand in the window and stare in amazement that I run into you once again. You do not acknowledge me. You act as if you don’t know me. You pay for your nail job and exit the mall. I follow you. You get in your car and glance at me in your rear view mirror as if I’m a stranger passing by. I run to my car and follow. You see me in your side mirror. All the while, no expression or acknowledgment. I wonder where you are leading me, or if you are not leading me at all.
You make a left, a right and get on the freeway and speed, I race to keep pace. I catch up and pull up beside you, you look over at me and with no expression you turn back towards the road. You exit after 6 miles. You pull into the Ritz Carlton. As you exit your car, I pass you to find a parking spot close to yours. You look at me with the same look as if I’m an insignificant stranger. I park and rush to the lobby. I see you grab a key from the front desk and jump in an elevator. I run across the huge lobby to catch the elevator doors. You watch me run towards you as you let the elevator doors close on my fingers. Read more
When she is talking to you about some random intellectual stuff, get close, look deeply into her eyes and interrupt her with “you are soooo beautiful”
Remember the simple things, they will carry you to the fruition of your promises
Love – Post it
I miss you already. I don’t know what I’d do without you in my life. Now I understand true love. Have a wonderful day baby. What color panties do you have on? I’m far away, but I’m close at heart. It can’t get any sweeter. Text me a pic (wink wink). When I get back…IT’S ON!
As you leave out of town on business, take a bunch of post-it notes and place them all over the house. On her computer, in her car, under the covers on her pillow, on the toothpaste, on the back of the bathroom tissue, give one to her assistant at work to place the on her desk two days after you leave. Give one to your neighbor to put on your front door when she’s at work.
How to rekindle the flame- fake it!
Yep I said it, fake it. Pretend that you are a Hollywood sex symbol and you are shooting a hot passion filled romance scene. You will get into it and the sparks will fly. Ohh yeah, just keep this thought to your self, but let her feel the heat.
