My Friend Natalie – Family Stage Two
Originally published 10/22/2008
It was a rather hot day in July 1992, I was discussing life with Natalie as we sat in her car on the campus parking lot between classes. We philosophized and propagated the meaning of the universe. This was an interesting time in my life, due to the fact that I was to become a father at any moment. My pager was on high alert with a fresh battery.
Later that night, I got the page…1911… I took a cab from my buddies house, I can’t remember why I didn’t have my car. Two day’s later I awake with a cramp in my knee and pride on my face and my first born asleep upon my chest. I gently kissed his forehead and handed him to his mother and told her I’d return to the hospital to take her home in four hours. Read more
Ms. Independent – “Size does matter”
Michelangelo's David
Originally published 3/30/09
Men need women for one reason only, that is to stroke their manhood. Manhood in a broader sense than just anatomy. The definition of an independent woman and the definition of Manhood are different for each person. Yet as a couple, the two definitions must be agreed upon through discussion and practice. This is what makes good matches last. After the relevance of exterior beauty fades, two people must agree on what limits her independence has, as well as how large is his manhood. Size does matter, every woman wants a man with a huge manhood. Every man portrays a huge manhood, even if he is lying to himself or the world. Sometimes in the heat of an argument a woman will swing a low blow by questioning a man’s manhood,
“Just be a man and tell me the truth!”
No guilt, no regret, not good – How guilt affects lifestyle
Guilt is an emotion that is learned. As parents we must understand how to instill guilt in association of “immoral actions”, such as the church does by way of “the fear of God”. To fear God is to respect him and his power over your soul. People who believe in karma or reaping what you sow, exhibit the framework of guilt. Yet when a person commits an act that is deemed inappropriate by the social or religious group that he/she subscribes to, guilt may follow such action. This guilt may deter such activity in the future, thus creating a relatively harmonious environment. This is also shown in crimes against society that are punishable by the court system. Sentences are partially determined by the accused display of remorse or guilt. Without this, they may receive a harsher penalty. Read more
The Black Family Legacy – Our missing link
I belong to the school of historical/cultural thought that believes that the civil rights movement of the 1960’s may have advanced African Americans into the mainstream and opened many doors. Yet there was great damage that the movement caused as well. Blacks in this country prior to the civil rights movement had many internal issues to deal with. Yet just as sudden riches will not make life easier, it enhances the happiness or unhappiness of a person, thus too is true of the Black community being given the opportunity to play in the “whites only” league. From the increased ability to sit where we want, shop where we want, live where we want and go to school where we want; all of this has told the Black community that there is no need for a “Black community”.
Since the early 70’s the Black community has become increasingly concentrated with the lesser of us, as the Blacks that may otherwise be community leaders, mentors and entrepreneurs have elected to assimilate into mainstream in search of more diversity and greater security in the quality of life.
How has this affected the Black family? Well, in comparison of 1969 and 2009, 68% of children were raised by a two parent household, versus 29% now. Out of wedlock child birth grew from 25% to 70%. The marriage rate has consistently fallen while the divorce rate of those who have gotten married has increased drastically. Read more
Men’s Meeting – 5 Stars thanks to Jarell
Today we had our monthly Men’s meeting. 15 men ages 17 to 60 converged at Joe’s house for some BBQ on his back porch. I brought Jarell, one of my little brothers from Big Brothers of America. This was the first meeting he has attended since we’ve been doing them. I met Jarell when he was 12, he is now 24. He came over my house to discuss a business proposition two days ago. He expressed his short attention span and how he has so many interests yet he lacks the focus to see things from start to finish. I’ve always been concerned for Jarell. But after today I know Jarell will be just fine in life. Read more
Adventure – Her life shall never be the same with you in it
Because of you she will see the world from a new perspective, if she opens her eyes
Boy in the bubble – Man in the Mirror – Michael Jackson- A child abused
Everyone is well aware of the legendary history of Michael Jackson. The most unique thing about him was the fact that he was famous very early in his life purely on his own talent and merit. He was born with a golden voice as well as a fragile character. His skin was very thin, leaving him emotionally susceptible to the crude environment of the public eye. This environment did not have such a profound personal affect his brothers.
To be deprived of his childhood and not allotted the normalcy to develop into a mature man emotionally is in my opinion a form of child abuse. Every year we have a new teen celebrity to shred due to their ill adjustment brought on by the selling of their soul to the devil, the media and to the American public as represented by the paparazzi. Read more
Is total satisfaction possible?
In reading my entry regarding my anniversary this question came to mind. If we are goal setters, we should be realistic in those goals, correct? The most important aspect to goal setting is attainability. So shall we look for total satisfaction within a relationship or is that a fairytale that only exist in a 4 year old girl’s bedtime story?
I am under the impression that many men have insatiable appetites. And most women are never satisfied. I’ve never come across a totally satisfied woman, but then again, maybe I’m just incapable of bringing total satisfaction to pass. Read more
He didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it
Fathers Day Quote by: Clarence Budington Kelland
Natalie’s experience- Part II- Nam-myo-hyo-renge-kyo
Through chanting I was able to see how powerful prayer is once we decide to win over our limitations. The guidance that really encouraged me throughout this time and still does is the following guidance from Pres.Ikeda,” Prayer is the courage to persevere. It is the struggle to overcome our own weaknesses and the lack of confidence in ourselves. It is the act of impressing in the very depth of our being, the conviction that we can change this situation with our prayer. Prayer is the way to destroy all fear. It is the way to banish all sorrow, the way to light a torch of hope. It is the revolution that rewrites the scenario of our 
destiny. Believe in yourself. Don’t sell yourself short. Devaluing yourself is contrary to Buddhism because it degenerates the Buddha state within you. Prayer is the effort to align the gears of our lives with the movement of the universe. Our lives which have been passively embraced by the universe now embrace the universe in turn, making the entire universe our ally, and fundamentally redirecting our state of life in the direction of happiness.”
I hung onto this guidance everyday and battled to overcome the demons inside my head until I became the victor. Read more
