History of The Pimp Game, Demasculinity and Willie Lynch
The Demasculinity of the Black man: Reverse masculinity is a term that I coined to represent the unique situation that plagues the black community. I will explain the development not by chronological order, but starting with the history of “The Pimp Game”. The popularity of the urban Pimp is a result of unemployable men attempting to find manhood in allowing women to degrade themselves in the effort to support him. Masculinity is defined by the ability to protect and provide material comforts and safety. Yet having a woman walk the streets and sell her body for money to bring to a man is not an exhibition of male masculinity. Flashy clothes, over-the-top jewelry and expensive cars where a false extension of a non-existent manhood to mask the fact that pimps were actually punks that exploited their own women with great detriment to their own communities. Read more
What kind of man are you?
Self-assessment for Men who want a serious relationship
There are three different types of men in this world. The best type is all three in one. That’s a keeper for any women. This is a new account of an old and accurate reality.
The Mandingo- Is a man that can put a woman to sleep after breaking her back.
The Gay man- A Listener, a man who can hold a conversation with genuine interest in empathizing with a woman’s perspective. He gives honest opinions that don’t consider an ulterior motive of sexual conquest, hence the term “gay man” who is without sexual desire for a woman. One who can set aside his attraction to the woman and give advise free of self-interest. He can adjust his responses to account for woman’s sensitivity and not overbear her with manly responses and solutions.
The Old man- Represents a man who is established and financially secure. Normally financially reliable which sustains the appreciation of a women. 
If you are a Mandingo, with no other quality, women will use you for sex, but they will not respect you further than the bedroom. Read more
Secrets to men being faithful Part II
As individuals we are first and foremost accountable to ourselves for ourselves. This is instinctually our nature. We are born selfish and self serving. Try to take a toy from a three year old and he’ll shout “mine!”. We pick up on clues from our environment regarding the necessity to share and give out of the kindness of our hearts. 
It often is falsely assumed that relationships mean that selfishness is placed aside. Oh contraire, it often means that we must put forth greater effort in not getting caught. Yet the actual denouncing of one’s selfishness for the greater good of the health of the relationship, is a sign of maturity and a strong indicator of success.
Now how do we get there? Read more
Secrets to men being faithful
Bill Clinton, Jesse Jackson, Kwame Kilpatrick, Bill Cosby, Rudy Giuliani, John Edwards, Mark Sanford, Antonio Villaraigosa. What do these men all have in common?
For many of us, our lives would be very different if men were as strong as women wished they were, sexually speaking. Many of us would have not been born if daddy wasn’t weak. As well, many of us would have been raised by a mommy and daddy under the same roof if men were not so weak. Read more
I still love women of my past???
I’m a married man and there are women out there that have a special place in my heart. Am I supposed to be totally resolved of those feelings? Maybe it’s not love, maybe it’s normal. Those feelings were evident and apparent after I got engaged. I think my fear of such a commitment brought raw feelings to surface. Those feelings I believe were the faces of my cold feet. I think they were a part of introspection, am I making the right decision? Is this the right women for me? It’s like when we are faced with death, our entire life really does flash before our eyes. In the face of marriage, my entire dating life flashed before my eyes. Are those visions there to help us evaluate our life and decisions, or is it just the fear of loosing the goodness of the memories we hold bottled up within us?
We will never find one person with all the qualities that we want. We have to give up some part of our “perfect person” simply because no one is perfect. We can construct a perfect person by taking parts or characteristics from many ex’s and roll them up in one perfect fantasy husband or wife.
“Dude, if she had the brains of Ariana, the tits of Liz, the ass of Tamara, the sense of humor of Nikki, plus a mute button, I’d be the happiest man in the world!” Read more
Modern-day Concubine and the fall of the Roman empire
Throughout history man has stored women for his personal adventure, to quench a thirst that appears to be sexual, but is actually much deeper of a thirst than just a mere act. As I watch movies such as The Prince of Persia, and read history books describing the Qing Dynasty, I question. We witness the fantasy of a room filled with beautiful women whose only objective is to appease the King. We men in modern day all feel as if we are Kings in one form or another. We revel in the thought of it all. But is this fantasy unobtainable, or are there men who have such a life? Not in the middle ages, not in the Middle East, not after a Muslim jihad sacrifice, but right here in 2010 on this American soil?
Yes we do. You’d venture to think that the number of women who would subject themselves to such a life are diminishing. With the independence of women, and the less tolerance for male inadequacy, you may guess that concubines are virtually impossible. Even the pimp game has run its course. That industry in Nevada has women who are more times than not, better paid and in more control than their patrons.
The modern day concubine is a strong and independent woman with her own money and is in “full” control of her life. Read more
My Table of Contents of raising children
Family at the African American Heritage Museum
As my children grow into adulthood, I find that I’ve been slipping a bit on my parental responsibilities to give them the perspective they need. I have to go back to the basics, so the republishing of this article is to serve as a reminder.
I’ve created a table of contents page. This lists in a systematic order, all the things I want to expose my family to. It took me a while to get the current table, there were many revisions as I discovered subjects that I wanted my family to address. The beauty of my plan is that it can be implemented by anyone without conflict in subject matter due to the fact that the parents create the categories. Hence, each family creates this table of contents according to their values and beliefs. To start parents should discuss with trusted relatives and friends for their input on creating a list. The parents should take a sheet of paper and brainstorm on what important topics and experiences should they expose their children to.
Once you have a table of contents, take it and make it the first page in a three ring binder. Give each of your children their own three ring binder. The parents use the list as a reminder, and periodically ask the children to write about a recent experience that the family has shared. Their age is irrelevant outside of beginning the binder at around 7 to 9 years old. If they are very young, allow them to draw a picture of what they remember. Read more
You got knocked the Fuck out!
Ladies, lets say you are out at a high end nightclub with your man, lover, provider, protector. He has a bit too much to drink and he notices a guy across the room that keeps staring at your beautiful famine body. You and he converse about it, and you tell him, don’t worry about it. He refuses to take heed to your words as his temper flares. Finally he has enough of this guy salivating over what he considers his good stuff. So he shouts across the room a loud bark that shows his intent of defending your honor completely.
Within 30 seconds they are up in each others faces daring each other to “bust a move”. So your man proceeds to take all his might to this guys jaw bone, but before your mans fist can make contact, the guys pinpoint jab hits your man dead in the forehead. Next thing you see is your man falling in slow motion to the floor like an Oak tree in the woods. He hits the floor and doesn’t move as he is knocked totally unconscious for a good 2 minutes.
After the crowd clears, and security assists (carries) your man to his car, you began to try to grasp the nights sudden unfolding of events. Does this affect his manhood in your eye? Is your ability to look at him as the strong protector gone forever? What is the conversation in the car like?
