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March 7, 2010

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the great compromise

She can only satisfy 80% of his physical needs

He can only satisfy 80% of her emotional needs

CAN YOU DEAL WITH THAT?

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  1. GFP
    Mar 7 2010

    Emotional yes, Physical NO! My personality may allow for a deficit in the emotional area secondary to the fact, I’m not an over-share type person anyway. I’d love to talk about your day and participate with genuine interest but when it comes to my turn I fade. However physically I won’t allow myself to compromise (excluding appearance) because I am the aggressor many times and if I’m doing things just to satisfy you, I expect the same. If there is something you enjoy and I am not particularly well versed in the area… believe me, I’ll hit the books and figure it out. After all, pleasure is the name of the game. If we can’t please each other to the fullest extent and go in expecting to win the war then there is no reason to even begin the battle. 80% isn’t bad but personally I need at least 98%, lol! I say this candidly but I’m 100% honest/serious with this one.

  2. Lady Bliss
    Mar 7 2010

    Good concept, and more precise than the usual 80/20 rule.
    Sex and Communication/Emotions are both one of the top 3 reasons for divorce. Which leads me to believe that it’s imperative to learn to deal with this new version of the 80/20 rule.
    A couple can figure out a way to compensate each other for the remaining 20% (within their relationship), or learning to be happy with 80% is also an option/choice. Keeping in mind that contentment comes from GOD (will power).

  3. Mrs. BOT
    Mar 7 2010

    There’s about 3 to 7 days out of the month when I am a little more emotional than normal, and the 80% just doesn’t cut it. However during the other part of the month, my 80% seems more like a 100%.

  4. Mrs. BOT
    Mar 8 2010

    One other thought – We say “Only 80%.” But when you take a look at the picture of the Chocolate Mousse, 80% seems like plenty, especially when there are people who only have 20%.

  5. J Harris
    Mar 15 2010

    Some people see a cup that is half empty. I guess it’s your perception and discipline that really matters.

  6. SongbirdLA
    Mar 17 2010

    I agree with Mrs. BOT in that looking at the Chocolate Mousse, 80% looks pretty damn good! Personally, I actually haven’t resolved myself to all these “rules” when it comes to relationships. Love is never a black and white, statistical reality. The reality of love is sometimes you’re completely satisfied in the relationship, other times you’re not.

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