Substitutes create baggage

Originally published 10/26/08
Substitutes are people who we let into our lives to take up a time and space in our hearts. We use them to bring temporary comfort and to mask pain or loneliness that we may feel. They are not the real deal. They don’t possess the qualities that we truly demand for that position. Companies call a temporary employment agency for a temp to do some temporary work for them. But companies can continue to interview more qualified persons for the position as well as relieve the temp at any time. Often times, we as individuals may not be able to interview properly with temporary distractions in our lives. We may have difficulty in releasing that temporary person from our lives. Stalking, unwanted pregnancies, emotional strife, occur all due to our quest for a temporary fix. This substitute can distract you from finding that person who is most qualified.

Have you ever attended a function with a substitute and saw someone that you felt a strong connection with? You may have to let that opportunity pass you by out of respect for someone that you’ve already determined to be temporary. Not as temporary as you’d like, due to your missed opportunity to find one who is worthy of your riches.

In real life we deal with users, womanizers, booty calls, just a friendz and crazies. But if you are at the point in your life where you seek a higher connection with a worthy person, you must release some of the potential for drama from your life. Remember you may become a substitute for someone else due to the drama that follows you from another life. You know people with baggage and old relationship issues are not attractive, so don’t allow yourself to get used up. How and to what degree we manage our substitutes is where the battle lies. This is a very personal choice and no one can make you do anything, but no one has to suffer your consequences with you either.

You decide