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Archive for November, 2009


I’d rather be the woman who knows what’s going on, rather than the wife who wonders what’s going on

sexI love richard. Matter of fact I think richard makes the world go round. But I don’t give a damn about a man. They lie, they cheat, and they are idiots when it comes to communication. So why do we need them… oh yeah, for the richard! I have a part time boyfriend and that’s exactly how I like it. To me, men are like hand bags, if you use it too much it will lose its appeal. So you need a variety to make you feel good.


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Happy thankstaking




Let us pray for those who have lost their lives and suffered broken spirits in the making of this great nation. Let us not ever forget or take for granted all that we truly have much to be thankful for. Let us remain standing strong and fighting for spiritual world peace.

A Blackfoot Indian Chief once said “When they came they had the bible, we had the land.  Now we have the bible and they have the land”


A son’s emotional issues

teen-upset1I was 22 and she was 20.  We knew each other for a while throughout school.  But now that we both were adults, she approached me with a mature intent.  So I was like, cool, we can go out.  The first time we had sex I only had one condom.  When that broke, we didn’t stop.  During the next 9 months, we did everything we could to get on each others nerves.  I’m not really sure why, but we were not working out.  She knew that I didn’t want to be with her for the rest of my life and she resented my efforts.


Four months after the birth of my son she told me she was getting married to some off-and-on boyfriend.  He was about to go into the Army and she thought he’d be a better provider then some college student that lived with his mother.  I remember an argument we had in front of her boyfriend’s house about how she thought I needed to drop out of school to support her and the baby, and if I did she would not marry this guy.  I had grand plans and was not about to get stuck in a minimum wage life.  Read moreRead more


I love my daughter’s step-mom, we are like sisters

two-moms9 out of 10 people will be shocked to know I’m a step-parent to my ex-husbands children.  How’s that?  He and his 3rd wife have her son, our daughter and their daughter under the same roof.  I know you’re wondering why is your child under their roof?  Simply because I never wanted to be married or have a child for that matter yet having a single mother of my own her fears came into play.  She felt the need to have me married so that I would be taken care of and well, back then “only if I knew what I know now,” right? 


I know saying that I never wanted a child sounds insensitive but the major and most sincere reason my child has lived with her father since our divorce is because he offered “family,” when I had none.  By the time of our divorce I was estranged from my mother and my father was nowhere to be found, leaving me without a village, Read moreRead more


I hated my Step-dad for no apparent reason

question-mark-keyboardI’ve always wanted to receive a Doctorate in Sociology with an emphasis on Step-parenting.  I may one day soon pursue that goal. I’ve always been intrigued by the family dynamic of partial families attempting to be whole. The margin for jealousy, resistance, neglect and abuse is great within those situations. All this week I’d like to focus on step-parenting.  If you have a compelling story regarding having, being or knowing a step-parent please share it.  I’ll publish it anonymously, e-mail it to  


Contemporary Economic Issues

chess-thoughtHello all, I will be teaching Econ 4 at Long Beach City College (Class #33633) this Spring. It is an On-line class so you can work from home at your own convenience. The course deals with the pressing economic issues of our times.

Topics will be: The current economic crisis, Obamanomics, the Environment, Crime, Drugs, Education, Poverty, Discrimination and Healthcare.

Join me in figuring this mess out.


They say America is the land of the free. But there is only one thing that is absolutely positively free….Ignorance


Don’t ever let someone tell you that you can’t do something… When you got a dream, you got to protect it. If people can’t do something themselves, they want to tell you that you can’t do it. You want something, go get it, PERIOD!

pofh8The Pursuit of Happyness – Will Smith stars.  Based on Heroic real-life struggle of Chris Gardner in overcoming the odds and triumphing, while maintaining a strong commitment of fatherhood.



If you are not making someone else’s life better, then you are wasting your time.

will-smith1Quote:  Will Smith


I don’t want to be a Panther, so what’s a sistah to do?

balck-pantherI’m approaching my 40th birthday, a single parent of one child, educated, excellent job, very independent and perhaps described as kind of a square. I don’t smoke, never done drugs and I don’t drink. I’ve had the opportunity to explore many different monogamous relationships throughout my years. I’ve experienced the fairy tale marriage having everything I wanted but I was so unhappy and my husband had other interest that excluded me. I’ve experienced divorce and know how to live off of practically nothing. I’ve had a fiancée that was virtually a dream, until he became abusive and yes…I walked away and gave the ring back. I’ve had boyfriends who have impressed and blessed me and then suppressed and depressed me. I’ve dated men who were older, younger and the same age range. I don’t really have a particular type of man in mind when I date. Just that they are God fearing, have a good job and their own place and vehicle. And yes, it is a turn off if my date still lives at home with Mom.

cougarsWell, my major concern at this point in life is this. OK, most of my girlfriends are older than me. I’ve watched their relationships or lack thereof. They all have great paying jobs and are constantly busy with lives goings-on but they have no significant others. Yes, they date and go out and flirt and have a good time; but no real genuine loving relationship. I call them Panthers, Read moreRead more