Consciously grow together, or you will subconsciously grow apart
Often times our relationships get boring and monotonous. This can lead to the death of something that could have lasted forever with a bit more effort. What steps can we take to prolong relationships and protect the security that we seek? Below I’ve listed a few hobbies that you and your love-one can get into together. This builds strength and ensures that you grow together, not grow apart.
Remember, when you were single you wanted someone that could bring quality to the table. Just because you now are at the table with someone doesn’t mean the time to bring quality to the table has pasted. That concept is a continuous process of adding what you bring. Now you both can bring similar experiences together in order to keep it interesting and fresh.
For me, I surprised my wife with a jump out of a perfectly good airplane. The video is hilarious. Another example is that she is currently in school pursuing her Masters in Psychology. I read through some of her text books. We often discuss our opinions of the concepts and theories in the books. We don’t want to get so far apart in our berth of knowledge that we can’t relate to one another. So as she expands in one era, I follow. Besides, I want to see the reverse psychology coming as she tries to pull it on me.
Do you have any experiences or ideas on keeping it fresh and interesting as you grow together?
I secretly took guitar lessons and wrote a song entitled “I learned music to express my love”. She was totally shocked and loved it. We stayed up all night singing & rewriting the song and adding a chorus for her to sing. That is “our song” now. Peaches and Herb aint got nothin on me and my baby.
I recommend Love Dare and Rib Connection to any couple that’s interested in igniting the fire.
“The Love Dare personally leads you through daily devotionals, records your thoughts and experiences, and ends each day daring you to perform a simple act of love for your spouse. This 40-Day journey equips you to melt hardened, separated hearts into an enduring love that can withstand the flames of fear, pride and temptation. The Love Dare book will help you reinforce and enrich your marriage, earn back a love you thought was lost, and hear more about the One who not only designed unconditional, sacrificial love—He illustrated it.”
“The Rib Connection, 10 Secrets to Developing Healthy Relationships. In The Rib Connection, Carlos L. Malone, Sr. strips away the confusion and gives clear, biblical answers to questions related to marriage and relationships. Are you single and looking for your love connection? He addresses the importance of communicating before marriage. Are you married and unfulfilled? He discusses how to discover the unique needs of your mate—and how to have your mate fill your unique needs. He also lays out principles for dealing with—and avoiding—the problem of infidelity. The Rib Connection faces the daunting issues of marriage and relationships with refreshing clarity.”