Relinquishing power to a man

Thank you ladies for taking the time to write in on what it would take for you to relinquish your power to a man.  The reason I asked that particular questions is that no matter how you view relationships, rather it be one dominant and one submissive or a 50/50 situation or you do you and I’ll do me;  I believe that a power struggle will inherently happen.  I also believe that men will eventually want to take the reins in a relationship regardless of how it started out.  In addition, a woman will eventually want a man to step up and be strong.  Hence a majority of successful relationships will have to battle and conquer this topic in one form or another.

In my relationship it is my job to eventually know my significant others perspective of idealism.  Through trial and error this will certainly surface.  Yet if her feelings and desires contradict what I want or what I feel I can live up to, I may start to tune out parts of her argument.  Or justify my shortcomings in an effort to find comfort with my inadequacies. 

Your writings have reminded me of the commonalities that all women demand.  This let’s me know that my woman is not tripping out and being unreasonable.  The expectations she has will be similar if I were to jump ship and see if the grass is greener on the other side.  It is greener on the other side, if the other side is my recognizing and committing to being that better man, not another relationship.

So I now read each of your entries line by line and contemplate my actions.  Through thought and seeking of others understanding I may better be equipped to grow in a positive direction. 

Your writings also point out the high expectations that you all place on men.  Place the shoe on the other foot and ask yourself, “if I were a man that has had his normal share of defeats, is all this expectation realistic?  Would I be so damn quick to meet a woman and promise to uphold all that “she” deems necessary to define my worth?”

There is a reason why relationships are so tough and rarely successful.  I’m sure we all play a roll in the odds.  I’d love to get men to write in on their views of relationships and hopefully they will do so.