Can you relinquish your power and submit to a man? Part II

This was a difficult subject for me to write about because most of the men I know have allowed the women in their lives to be head of household.

Men aren’t really raised to take control anymore, and women are raised to be independent. So this topic is almost obsolete.

However, I still see the value in allowing a man to be head of household. There are about two or three women in my life who are in marriages where their husband has practically all of the power. Although, the “Strong” women in my family ridicule the women in these types of marriages, their marriages seem to be working. It is also part of God’s original plan to have men as head of household.

Here are a few challenges that women are faced with during their quest in finding a man who they are able to give all power to:

• There are too many men who are looking for women to take care of them
• Some women are more educated, and or have higher skill set professions
• There aren’t too many men who lead by example in managing their own finances
• Women do not want to feel less than a man, just because we were born a female
• Women want to be respected at all times, we despise verbal or physical abuse
• In order to completely be obedient to a husband, he would have to possess Godly characteristics (put God first in every aspect of his life and decision making)
• When there are children involved, the woman has to have confidence in her man that he is going to treat her child as his own and fairly
• Women want a voice in the relationship, we want to do our part in making our lives better

Here are my tips that I think are needed in order for this type of relationship to work:

• Women have to allow a man to be and feel like a man
• Task/roles in the relationship should be determined prior to moving in with one another
• Most women prefer being domestic, but she might need a little help every once in awhile due to the demands of her career and taking care of the kids
• Women also like having the ability to pamper her man, but he can’t expect this every night or even most nights of the week, when she has a full plate of her own
• People in relationships should have similar beliefs/habits in the following areas: Finances, Spending Habits, Spiritual Beliefs, Child Rearing Practices, Political Affiliation, Health & Fitness Habits, Life Learning, and Common Life Goals
• Respect one another (treat or talk about one another as you would yourself)
• They should share similar cleanliness & grooming habits

I wish that there were more men willing to take on this task.

Take care,

Ms. Faced Challenges