How do you not revert back to your tribal instincts?

Have you heard this popular saying from the 1950’s negro migration North: “You can take the nigga out of the ghetto, but you can’t take the ghetto out of the nigga”.  I used to hate that saying. Even though I didn’t subscribe to it, I knew there always was some ghetto in me that I could pull out at any given moment.  How about this old popular saying of the 1960’s in the South: What do you call an educated black man?…  A nigga.  If I make the wrong move, I can be locked up with all the other fools through a court system that hates black men almost as bad as black men hate themselves.

How you build a pyramid  will influence your rationale (see my article on pyramiding- entitled Complex game of Chess).  But that can only take you so far.  If you are like me and you came from the hood after building a juvenile criminal record that would be the pride of any life long criminal, then try to emerge into a world with limitless boundaries, you have to learn how to suppress the urge to act on the tribal instinct that you were taught in tribal societies.  In a governmental society, the police and civil court is a legitimate way to resolve big problems.  On the other hand tribal warfare will be fueled by rage given the need to display your ego publicly.  In a tribe, you can not show any signs of weakness, and often times that translates to not showing any signs of intelligence. If you don’t know the difference, that is a discredit to your level of intellect. 

I recently had a disagreement on this site through the comment section of my article “Because they don’t read”, this episode made me so angry that I weaponed up in anticipation of a big through down. I told my Republican/Governmental type friends what happened. They laughed at me and said there is nothing that could be said on-line that would make them want to take it to that level. They followed it up with a question of why do some people self destruct like that. They where referring to tribal people. The discussion lead to the fact that intellectual people fight with their minds, if that weapon is not big enough people rely on their fist. As a matter of a fact, intellectual people will use the tribal people to go to foreign land to fight that physical fight and die for them, now that is smart.

So when someone steps on my brand new pair of shoes (ego), I just might act instinctually and publicly protect my ego.  We’ve discussed on my article “Ms. Independent”, that if I were to act out of manhood, I’d be more considerate of how my beating of my chest will ultimately hurt the vary people I claim to protect.  Remember ego is selfish, manhood is smart.    

Have you ever been in a situation that made you so mad that you instinctually wanted to get physical, but actually thought that course of action would only make your situation worse, so you chose to handle the situation in a more peaceful way?