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Archive for April, 2009

28
Apr

A Blues for Nina

Who am I, they all call me brother to the night, and right now I’m the blues in your left thigh, trying to become the funk in your right…Is that all right!

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Love Jones

 

 

 

 

Black Cinema Quote

27
Apr

7 compliments in 7 days

drag-queenLast week I was walking back to my hotel on a visit to New York.  The crowd was thick, as Manhattan always is.  A woman was walking towards me.  As we made eye contact she smiled and looked me up and down as she licked her lips in a very seductive way.  Right as we passed each other we continued to stare at each other.  She made it obvious what was on her mind.  I was still staring at this point because I was close enough to notice that this was a transvestite.  Ughh!!!  As I quiver with disgust my phone rang.  I answered it, it was my wife who I left at the Levi store to try on some jeans.  We spoke briefly and she told me she didn’t want any jeans and she’ll meet me at the hotel.  She also told me that a young 18ish year old guy just came up to her with gazing eyes and said,

“You are soooo beautiful”. 

 

Later I pondered the question: Who thrives on compliments the most, men or women?  Better yet, which compliments are more powerful to our confidence, compliments from our significant others, or from strangers?  Does a man get more manhood stroke from seven compliments in seven consecutive days from the one he loves, or would he feel like a bigger man if the compliments were from seven others.

 

Preferably real women please, trannies need not respond!!!               Read moreRead more

21
Apr

Those who travel the path of least resistance rarely travel any substantial distance

Quote of the week

21
Apr

For the Love of Ray J

Taking breaks from the more serious or suspense television, I like to indulge in a bit of raunchy TV to numb the mind a bit. On the reality show “For the Love of Ray J”, the brother of famed singer Brandy, who is also an entertainer of sorts, has a show in the tradition of my man “Flavor Flav”.

Danger

Danger

Unique
Unique
Cocktail

Cocktail

Last nights season finale left me with a few questions regarding the types of women men want. The final three female candidates lined up perfectly in that there was the crazy one that you know is going to cost you, but you’ll have so much fun between psychotic episodes.  There was the Strong conservative woman who has direction and focus.  And thirdly, you have the one that has the perfect body but that’s about all she has to offer. 

The 3rd runner up was a big favorite, “Danger”, with a tattoo of a tiger on her face. My first impression was that she was crazy, and at the end it appeared that she was a bit unstable. Yet she was “mad sexy”. I don’t like tattoo’s but she rocked hers pretty damn hard. Read moreRead more

15
Apr

Hot coco at Norms Diner

norms1For the past 10 years, I would periodically (every 3 or 4 months) take my children, one at a time, to Norms.  We would sit at the counter and have hot coco.  I would do something strange and goofy like ask the waitress for a pen and write something on a napkin like a riddle or a trick question and I’d pass it to my child to write or color in something on the napkin.  Something else I did with my daughter once was just start laughing and laughing, she asked  what was I laughing at as she started to laugh herself, I laughed so hard that I couldn’t respond where she could figure out what I was saying.  Then I slowed down.  She asked again, “what’s so funny?” I responded, “I don’t know” and I’d bust up laughing again.  She started to laugh hard and we sat there laughing at each others laugh for 10 minutes.  My daughters laugh is the most beautiful sound in the world to me; it is the soundtrack to my clarity and purpose. I believe when I rest in peace, her laugh will always be with me.  

 

During our coco time I would get in the mindset that I was the same age as them and I’d enjoy the coco like I used to as a kid, whip cream mustaches, blowing bubbles with a straw and all.  They’d put their guards down and our conversations would be very different, enlightening and invaluable.  My kids began to ask to go to Norms for hot coco.  They wanted to eventually go together, so sometimes we all three would go.  We all love hot coco, but deep down I believe that hot coco anywhere else on the planet is not the same as hot coco at Norms.   

 

 

Child support- $850.  Norms hot coco- $3.50.  Quality time with children- Priceless…

 

 

12
Apr

Just the two of us – Will Smith

Will & Trey Smith

Will & Trey Smith

I pledge to you,
I will always do
Everything I can
Show you how to be a man
Dignity, integrity, honor and


Lyric of the week

12
Apr

I AM NOT GOING TO BURY MY SON! MY SON IS GOING TO BURY ME!

Black Cinema Quotejohn-q 

 John Q – John Q. Archibald displays his passion at denying the thought of his son dying due to a failing heart and inadequate healthcare coverage.  As a father, this is the most personally touching cinematic moment I have ever experienced.  We must do what ever it takes to plan,  protect and provide for our families.

12
Apr

Tuskegee Airmen – Black Heroes

“We said the antidote to racism was excellence and performance and that is what we did.”

tuskegeetuskegee1Enduring blatant skepticism and racism at the Tuskegee Army Air Pilot Training Field in Alabama, members of the 332d Fighter Group exceeded all expectations in order to rise to a higher calling and chip away at injustice to secure justice and freedom for all successors.  In April 1943 they began their first tour of duty in WWII. Read moreRead more

11
Apr

Rite of Passage into Manhood

dad-kissI live in guilt for my choice or inability to be a full time dad to my children.  It eats at my subconscious that it didn’t go as it should have.  In an effort to make the biggest impact I may have pushed my son too far.  I may have done more damage than good.  I sit in the middle of this road and think to my self, where is my son? Why is he not right behind me, he is not responding, he is not motivated to be or do.  Why? Have I failed him?  I need help understanding what to do.  My grand plan of a Rite of passage ceremony seems not to bare any fruit. 

I struggle to be better, to impact my spirit positively, and to positively impact those for whom my heart carries love.  I struggle daily with my role in bringing a clearer view of adulthood to my children.  Is it my job to be a part of those decisions, or shall I sit in the background and allow my children to find their own way? Every young person has the divine right to their own visions. Rites of passage have been the birthright of young people since the dawn of time. Nearly all tribal cultures provide their young with an opportunity to seek their own vision and enter into adulthood with a spiritual connection to the Universe. Read moreRead more

11
Apr

Diary of a pissed off Black woman!

diarySitting here bugging out wondering where all the twists and turns of life came into play. It’s amazing how I used to look at bitter and bruised women and say to myself “shit…get over it”. Wow…never thought I’d be one of those women bitter and bruised myself.  But I can’t just get over it.  I can’t even begin to wrap my mind around this situation. I had what I thought was the perfect plan and the perfect man. My girlfriends, all looking at my blended family with envy. While all along I’m pumping them up with the reality that they can have the same and there are still good men out there…..well, if I only knew what I was saying.

 

Our eyes first made contact from across the aisle at a mutual friends wedding. I had a date and so did you.  Neither of us really entertained our wandering eyes. After running into you several times thereafter, and a few captivating conversations, we began dating. The dating situation was a complicated matter from the start. You had a high school sweetheart and I had a boyfriend at the time.  During my boyfriend’s many business trips, you took full advantage of the opportunity to find a way into my heart. Read moreRead more