Hi Mr. Harris,
Your web site is pretty cool. I haven’t reviewed everything like I want, but I will.
I also visited the Tanjectory site. It was pretty interesting.

Take care
La Tanya

What’s up Mr. Harris
I went to Assurance Financial Foundation I tried to log in and the password that you gave me didn’t work. What should I do?

Criss, AFF is for members. Your password expired due to your not becoming a member within the allotted time. If you are interested in becoming a member and receiving the benefits of membership, let me know and we’ll move forward from there.

I’m sorry to bother you Mr. Harris I know your very busy, I’m very interested AFF. Where do I go to join the membership?

Happy Holidays to you and your family.

hey “pro”…greetings,
we meet on blueline
I will forward link to a few people locally, The South, Northern CA.
cheers,

Is a lack of motivation a disease, genetics, or just a state of mind?

Jareem, motivation can first be effected by bio-chemical imbalances in the brain. This can be caused by a developmental defect either pre or post natal. Yet most incidences are caused by one’s environment, where confidence was not instilled during childhood. If one suffers from the lack of confidence courage may lack. Lack of confidence usually derives from a lack of trials that lead to successes and are reinforced/praised by others. Trials in life that are suffered without someone there to help you dust of and encourage you to keep trying leaves one scared to leave his/her comfort zone for the fear of failure.

Being a rapper may be a comfort that will afford you to smoke, tat up and have a felony all while presenting a lifestyle that is pleasing to your young eyes. Those who travel the path of less resistance rarely travel any substantial distance.

I have enjoyed visiting the site, alot of information provided, critical thinking is good and the read is informative. What interest me is the Woman of Virtue and Manhood. Your insights are well established and contributes knowledge.

Thank you, for calling me back. I was thrilled to hear your voice. You’ve been a huge influence in my life, since the day I met you at Venice High School. Thanks to you, I will be graduating on Saturday, June 13, 2009, from the University of Phoenix, with the degree in Criminal Justice at 2p.m. followed by a grad party. The graduation would be complete with your presence. Invitation to party with 2 tickets to ceremony and directions will be mailed out today.

Thank you
P.T.

Hello,
It was nice meeting you. I think that this is a wonderful site. Keep up the good work. I must say I am impressed.

Dear Jermaineharris.com

I have been with my current boyfriend for a little over a year now and I’m wondering if we have come to our ceiling and this is all for the relationship. Every time he says “I Love You” I usually respond with an “awww” or “ me too” when I really mean to say “I’m quite fond of you as well”. I do not love him, in fact the relationship only began because my girl friends egged me on saying it would be socially and financially lucrative for me. They were true about those things but they neglected to point out the possibility he may actually have a thing for me and it could grow. Don’t get me wrong, he is all that a woman could want ( I think), I just don’t love him yet. Is this a problem? Should I just let him go so he too can find someone to love him?

Sincerely,

I Can’t Say it Back

Dear, I Can’t Say it Back,
Many women are unhappy in their relationship due to the lack of 1/4 or 2/4. Just do what every other woman does, wait until someone “better” comes along and then trade up. In my mack daddy days, I’d talk to women and most of them would give me their phone number. Now I’m not stupid to think that all of these 8+ chicks were not in a relationship (well there were a few 6 and 7′s in there). When I talked to women, they sometimes tell me about sloppy dudes (2 or 3) approaching them. “As if”. They’d tell the guy “I gotta man”. So the men that hear that a lot, are not perceived as a trade up.

But then again you are deceiving him by letting him believe you love him, even though chances are he already knows how you feel given your half assed response. You should judge the level of intensity of the relationship. He may love you for 50 years and never want to marry you. So what does it matter, you’ll eventually trade up to end this relationship.

Q: Is it really possible for two people who have inflicted scars on one another to move on to complete happiness and fulfillment?

It’s one things to have been hurt or fear of a particular area from the past. But what about when the wounds and scarring comes from the one you’re attempting life long love and happiness with? Is that really possible?

As I thought about this concept, the visual picture of a scar came to mind. When there are scars and wounds that are so deep…what’s the healing process? They almost never go away and there’s always some sort of residue or signs of infliction. If you think about it, the scars of some heal in a normal manner (fades w/ time). For others the impression of the scar remains the same as when first healed, however it gets smaller as the years go on. Then there are those individuals whose skin keloids and the initial scar is magnified giving an appearance of being worse than what it was. The end result being an apparent scar or flaw of the skin whether surgical scaring or scaring of intentional harm, it remains.

I really do believe that at some point there’s too much history for restoration. I sometimes wonder if my faith is more into making it work or into allowing God to do whatever he plans whether I like/understand it or not.

Scarring – Scars are a good thing in a relationship. This shows signs of testing of the relationship. Without scars you don’t know the strength of the relationship. Scars are war wounds that you can carry with pride of what we had to endure to prove our love and grow for one another. Now the emotional rollercoaster is a shared experience and we can be even closer for going to battle together. But remain standing for each other.

Given feelings, occurrences and obligations that one may incur due to a relationship, one must do according to one’s own evaluations. To constantly recognize a scar is to live in the past and not forgive. So if either party is constantly looking at scars, they will never heal. Looking forward with promise and forgiving the past (easier said then done) is allowing scars to fully heal. Then you can be proud of the strength to endure.

It is a battle to regain trust, love and lust; the main ingredients to a healthy relationship. But it is your fight to wage and no one should or could tell you when to throw in the towel. Fight for it, not against it, until you just can’t fight anymore.

Dear Jermaineharris.com,

I’m not sure if its so much of “trading up” because like I said he’s a great guy and I respect that. However, he just doesn’t stimulate my mind. I find it humorous when he makes fun of me for reading so much. But at the same time I want to say “yo a** need to pick up a darn book while you laughin”. I’m usually a very accepting person of peoples characteristics, personality and quirks. But I do not think I can be with a man that can not stimulate my mind. One of the biggest turn ons to me is an intellectual spar that I know I can’t win. I guess what I’m trying to say is…I’m not sure if the 1/4 applies because I can deal with peoples inadequacies but I get bored with a man that can’t make me think, educate me to random bs, or can’t reciprocate linear dialogue between two adults. Well at least that’s the answer I’ve come up with myself…lol! However, I think I understand your concept but stringing him along further may result in truly hurting him and that I can’t do. I feel stuck and I don’t know what to do!

Dear Can’t Say it Back, in your initial entry you didn’t say anything negative about your boyfriend except for the absence of mutual feelings of love. As I have learned through experience, love has a way of creeping up on you so slowly that you don’t know it’s there until you attempt to separate. Yet this second entry gives an impression of long term incompatibility. You know you better than anyone else. And I understand that you don’t want to be a happiness blocker for this fellow. If you are sure that you could never respect him with mutual emotions and that his level of intensity is or soon will be well beyond what is possible for you, then the only thing left to do is to decide when to pull the trigger. The longer you are with him, the longer you block the blessing of finding that right life mate for the both of you.

Hi Professor Harris,
I was looking over my notes and I’m unsure what buying a bond on a premium and on a discount means, could you please clarify this for me. Thank you!

When you buy a newly issued bond right from the corporation, you pay the Face Value ($1000 on my example in class). Yet when a holder of an existing bond wants to resell it on the secondary market, it will be compared to newly issued bonds of the same ratings. If the newly issued bonds for sale are offered at a higher interest rate, then the old bond must sell for a discount on the secondary market. However, if the newly issued bonds of the same ratings are selling with a lower interest rate than the old bond, then the older bond can be sold at a Premium (higher than the face value).

Dear Jermaineharris.com

My homegirl told me about this .com and letter to jermaine. After reading for a few weeks I feel comfy enough to ask what I want now. I am 20 and pregnant by my married boyfriend. We have been together for 2 years now and he is 49. he is married but says he don’t love her like he loves me. If it wasn’t for the house and his business he says he would divorce her. My homegirl says im young and gots my life to look forward to and to have an abortion. Im torn. I love him and I know he loves me but its just her. She is in the way. He got me my own apartment and car and pays my way through medical assistant school. He spends the night with me atleast 2 nights a week so I know she knows something. I met her before but only when I was his assistant. He don’t talk about her but to only complain about how she don’t satisfy him. She’s pretty but aint gots nothing on me. i am almost 3 m onths pregnant and I have not told him. Im worried about how he will take it. I don’t know what I will do if he rejects me and his baby. I want him to choose us but I want to be smart too. What do you think? I need some help.

Prego and worried

Dear Pregoandworried,

I’m going to be very candid with you because it has always puzzled me how young women get themselves caught up in situations like this. I will give you a little comfort in that you are not the ONLY one who has. One thing in your corner is that you’re young and hopefully you can and will learn from this. I will ask you two questions and once you respond will give you my full analysis. Be as honest as you can as I will do the same.

First question? What made you get involved with a 49 year old man?

In my experiences, a man that age seeks younger women for only one thing. Older men are aware of the insecurities that younger women may have and they prey upon that. It seems to me that he has supplied you with the things that you thought you needed but in all actuallity he was paying to keep you content so you would continue to be okay with the situation.

Second question? What made you get involved with a MARRIED man?

You seem to have a few things going for you, you’re in school and education is key.
There are always a reason that we do things. Are they always the best for us??? no. But it is when we dissect our actions that we are better able to understand them and decipher the true need.

Before responding to this I want you to think about YOU first. Are you ready for a baby?? Are you against abortion?? Are you willing and able to provide for a baby right now, with or without him?? If your answer to these questions are YES, then I would advise you to keep YOUR baby. Not for HIM but for YOU and your unborn child.

Once you make this decision, I would advise that you tell him and see how he responds.
This might be just what you need to gain some clarity.

Also, being 3 months, you don’t have much time so take some time to yourself and do whats best for YOU.

Looking forward to hearing from you

Personally I think prego is not in a good place as far as she, and her lover are concern. he is not going to leave his wife, it can’t be all that bad, if it were he would leave. if he can put her up in an apartment and take care of her, surely if he wanted to he could just purchase another home for them to live in. she is worried with very good reason. now she needs to start to think of her well being and soon that of her baby. he may or may not do right by her, but at this point, she really need to get on her on feet, without him. this is ugly, and clearly he has NO intentions of doing right period. oh, and she thinks the wife is in the way? i am sure she loves him and maybe he loves her, but, i am sure he loves his wife (maybe)… she is really young and immature and is in for a rude awaking. there are no clear signs of him Ever leaving his wife, however, she may leave him and then he may be with prego (and that is still a maybe) lastly, at this point, three months, too late to terminate the pregnancy.

Prego, the first thing you need to do is WAKE UP!

Statistically speaking the odds are stacked against you. The fact that you allowed yourself to be so intertwined with a man that had done so much wrong makes it hard to believe anything is going to work out for the best.

This man who should know better has put you in a situation were you are financially, emotionally and now physically dependent on him. He has done all this while not being fully committed to you as well as violating his commitment to his wife. So I’d suggest that if you are not against adoption (it may be too late for abortion) that you take this situation and re-evaluate the way you conduct your life.

Please know that he is not going to leave his wife to be with you and your child. THAT JUST WILL NOT HAPPEN, regardless of what he may say. He may end up at your house when his wife kicks him out, but to start a life with you… You two are in two different places in life and the strain of an unexpected pregnancy and a divorce will not go over too well over time.

If you keep this child, you need to make the decision from the stand-point of a single mother who is willing and able to do it alone. Anything that he may do is not to be considered at this point. He has proven to not be the best decision maker. You must grow up and make the right call for yourself.

I’m not trying to beat you up or judge, but the more risk you take in life, the more precautions you need to take. And you obviously have not taken the correct precautions. As for telling him, I normally feel that a man has the right to know and be a part in making the decisions of a baby. Yet the conversation between you and he, either it be before or after you make up your mind is something that only you can decide. But you have to act quickly.

You have stirred our emotions and we wish you well in this trial, keep us abreast of your progress. Good luck and good God,

After re-reading your statement I better understand your state of mind, and I apologize for my harsh tone. I must state that life for you will be just fine regardless of what he does. He is just one person and God has placed 300 million more here just for you to meet and learn from. This experience is your golden opportunity to become wiser. You were depending on him to be wise for you, that day has passed. You are now officially responsible for your own actions and wellbeing. I know you can do it. Just take a deep breath and know that you are equipped to handle what ever this world throws at you.

Your dependence shall now turn into independence. Okay…

Well spoken J…. God Bless you Pregoandworried.

It sounds like scary place Prego. But it may be best to talk to this fellow. Because all too often ladies bring it up during an argument “i;m having YOUR baby. Not Good. I have been a part of different aspects of your situation and wanted to really consider that life will not be easy having a child to an already married man. Let alone at such a young age. I had my son young and decided right away that his needs always come before mine. It is important to realize the sacrifices a parent makes to be successful at parenting. Some girlfriends may make it look easy but I think you should consider what kind of mom YOU want to be. This child will be a part of you and a man who goes home to another woman more nights than you. Can you imagine the time if any he will spend with your child. Okay let’s say he leaves her for you. Please do not go on looks or love. My husband cheated on me with a woman that was no so attractive. Only to ask for forgiveness and cheat again and again. It is an illness for some. The excitement of doing something that is not right. Sometimes visual variety of beautiful partners is desired but often the feeling of having youngness around keeps one feeling as though they are young too. They are variety of reason why folks cheat. But there is still may be a connection with one’s spouse. But for sure please consider that you may have not been his first mistress or last.

I have also been in love with a married man who I felt cared deeply for me. He was honest and told me that he had no intention of leaving her. But needed me in a different way. After several years of living at his needs I found myself too many more nights alone. I decided I needed to let go and get in touch with reality and God. If you keep you baby please know that “There are no guarantees in Love” and that you must now think of you AND your child going forward. Even if it means realizing that being smart means walking away and finding raw love. What kind of life does your baby deserve? Once you talk to him, you may want to think about something that Jermaine points out a lot. Do not expect him to tell you what you want to here. But take into heart what he is REALLY trying to get across to you. So that your expectations are not clouded. If a relationship has to be secret, should you really be in it?

Oh my…J and SS, fall back a bit…don’t go so hard on the girl!

Baby girl, you knew the job was dangerous when you took it, so don’t go crying for your hazardous pay now! This punk ass n**** laid the pipe and you tripped over it!

There are so many things wrong with this scenario and because I trust you are not naive enough to not see them, I won’t perseverate on them. However, what is right is your age! You are only 20 so this should not determine your life but only serve as education or a less learned!

They are right, he is NOT going to leave his wife! They NEVER do…so stop with that! I understand how it may be easy to desire something more with a man that has sold you a dream but baby girl…u just got mind fucked, that’s it! Rather he loves you or not is extremely mute at this point! Take care of yourself!

I too had a baby at 20 and that sucks! The sacrifices you will have to make, taking the long way around, becoming a statistic, people telling you that you will fail and subsequently being a single parent! There really isn’t any need to put yourself, the baby or this man through any pain! You guys played the grown up game and got caught up…and that’s ok, everyone makes mistakes just don’t complicate your mistakes with additional suffering!

Please don’t say you don’t believe in abortion because I’m sure sin was not a factor when you were screwing a married man before you yourself were married! Not to mention all the other 10 commandments that were broken! You might as well go for the grand slam and abort. Be smart baby girl and get an abortion, you have your life ahead of you! Don’t tell him as this will only add extra stress and complications! What does it matter that he knows.

However, you should try to distance yourself from this man as falling in love with a married man can not be healthy! If you need his financial support, continue to screw him twice a week and stack your rent, car and tuition just try to remove your feelings! Play the same game he’s playing baby girl…just play harder! You can’t let these fools get you down! This dude is good for laying the pipe and paying your bills that’s about it…remove your feelings as you should not want any man for yourself that cheats on his wife. He may make a good lay but if he behaves this way with wifee, what do you think he’ll do to you?

I’m confident you will make it through and be fine either way! Rather you walk away or not, he does not need to know! I’ll bet a good amount he is not going to react the way you want him to!

I first want to thank all of you for the advice and comments. I know I am dealing with the worst but I really love him. How did I get involved with a 49year old man? I was his receptionist then got promoted to personal assistant. We traveled together for business and spent a lot of time together. I guess we became cool with each other and he started to tell me things that his wife wouldn’t do. I thought he was cute for a old man. One day he gave me oral sex and it went from there. He has always made sure I am ok. One day he told me he didn’t want me to work there no more because he was in love with me. That’s why he pays for my stuff now. He is my rock I don’t know what will happen now I’m scared. At first I didn’t care that he was married because it was only a little sex and only fun. But then he started telling me what to do and we became dating. I started to feel bad about his wife but told myself it was just good sex and she would never find out. I like making him happy. No I don’t think I’m ready for a baby but I think it will give me a piece of him she will never have. I’m scared to get a abortion and I’m scared to have a baby with out a daddy. I know I played the grown up game and got burnt but I don’t want to cry no more. I feel alone. thanks lovely and gfp for womens advice. Lovely has kinda been where I am and you sound like you made it. Tears are in my eyes as I write this because I know you guys are right. I know gfp is right about not hurting him for no reason but I can’t help but wonder who going to help my hurt. Why do it got to be all on me? Jharris and gfp thank you guys for da confidence that I can make it.
Prego and worried

I have confidence in you Prego. Please believe in yourself. Yes I made it. I will see my son graduate from a private high school this upcoming year. He also has opportunities to receive an Art Scholarships to several 4yr colleges. Yet his father never came around like he promised and eventually went completely out of the picture. I was my son’s mother and father. Now this may not be your case but statistics are against you and we all need you to really consider that this may happen to you. More importantly, I continue to educate myself and am now financially doing very well. But here’s the lesson for you to consider from a married women, the once other women and a young mother:
Many years after leaving that married man I finally fell in love with the “right man” and got married. Sometime later karma played a cruel joke. While pregnant that good man slipped up and had an affair. We were Godly and he felt he could not live with his deceit. I believed that he would stop and time would heal my wounds. After therapy, God, and his manly parts finally slowing down, we are healing. Crazy as most of my girlfriends are quick to leave boyfriends who cheat. But a wife leaving her husband with children especially thru these hard times, you just don’t see that too often. I make sure bills are paid and my family has everything not if my husband is sleeping around. That is key for you to understand from a wife’s point of view.
We wives just push on until we just can’t any more, but that is usually years after of our knowledge of deceit. Because we continue to believe he will change, or perhaps our children will suffer too much, or how hard life would be with out the financially security. There are millions of us wives who live thru this everyday. Some cheat themselves to cover up the pain. Others spend lavishly or just plain close their eyes and pray. But crying at night I stopped long ago. Feeling sorry for oneself will not heal wounds or get you moving to the next course of action.
How much pain, disappoint and many more nights crying alone can you take. Because there will be countless. I know you are scared and I myself could not go thru the abortion. Even at that young of an age, I knew that in years to come I would not be proud of destroying a life within me. I am believer but after much tribulation of raising a son without a father, loneliness, heartache, disappoint with love, poverty, and taking the long way to educating myself I would like you consider all. Lastly, please do not let this man define you or your self worth. Find the strength to make the decision based on what you are capable of doing with and without him.

I have a cousin who is 2 months pregnant right now by a man that is 42. I don’t know if he is married or nothing but her worry is telling her dad. He will probably kill her, or stop paying for her college. She is one year away from her B.A. degree. I wonder about your family Prego? It appears that you don’t have a relationship with your father, so you are dating an older man to fill your financial needs that your dad should be assisting you with? This man is not doing you any favors by paying for stuff while you don’t work. Coming up is to have your own money building your career experience and he gives you more money on top of that. You can get a job and be fine without the threat of a wife finding out and all the other stuff that you are dealing with.

That is a good question…where are your parents? Not so much your father as your mother. Ma, its undeniable you are in a bad situation but it is not impossible. It is okay to cry if that is your only release of emotions. But crying without further action is sort of pointless. Being young and pregnant is stressful enough but to have no one to support you emotionally might be worse. I do agree with the others when they say you should extract him from the plan as chances are you will (if you choose) be a single parent. When I got pregnant at 20 I was angry. I hated my daughters father for doing that to me. I felt trapped and although I did not take the necessary precautions to protect myself, I blamed it on him. I was the one that distance myself from him, I cried, I cursed him, I was angry and just couldn’t stand the thought of being pregnant. After 4 months of this funk my mom came into my room and said “get up, go enroll back in school, call this boy and get ready to be a single parent because it is happening and no matter how mean you are to him you are still pregnant” and she walked out. I sat there looking dumb wanting to call my daddy so he could make it all better. The problem with that was my father too gave me harsh reality when he found I was pregnant. Low and behold I got it together and my daughters father was sent to prison when she was 2 years old…I have been a single parent every since. The moral of my rant is you can do it, no matter the odds stacked against you! As much as I love my daughter, if I had a do over…I would have been at that clinic for a very shameful hour but returned with my life still intact. You might feel guilty but like I said before I don’t think guilt is your specialty…it sure isn’t mine!
As for the man…come on girl, are you serious? I’m not even sure the problem is that you got with a 49 year old married man as it is you are expecting him to leave his family. Do you love him or the fact that he pays the cost? You don’t have to hurt yourself (by allowing him control over your mind) in order to obtain material things. Ma, my grandmother told me “as long as you are sitting on that gold mine you should never be broke”! You can get what you think you need from this man without giving him your soul! A piece of advice, what goes on in his household is none of your business. The problems (or lack there of) he has with his marriage is his problem, not yours. Being bothered with that has only helped suck you in where you size yourself up against his wife. The bottom line is, although she may not be able to have his children (I’m assuming from your above comment)he still goes home to her most nights, while you are at home wondering why. People that talk about ending a relationship are doing just that…talking! Because when one is fed up with a situation, they usually just quit abruptly!

Hey JH,
I hope you can help sort something out for me. I’ve been married for most of my adult life and have within the past 5 entered the single life. Maneuvering through the dating world at a more mature stage in life has proved challenging to me as it seems all of the norms have drastically changed. One thing in particular that I would like your opinion on is growing up my dad told me that men are natural hunters and when a man really wants a woman he will pursue her. He said that a man may deal with a women who pursues him but most likely she is just somebody to pass the time until the one he really wants comes along. I’ve always believed his theory and have governed myself by this principle. Meaning I really do not pursue men and since most women back 15-20 years ago seemed to govern themselves the same it was all good. But now it appears that women have become the more aggressive gender and it seems that it is the norm for women to do the hunting and to pursue the man. I have begun to wonder if possibly this is an outdated theory. So my questions to you are, first do you believe that this was ever a valid theory and if so have men lost their instinct to hunt. If a women is looking for a lifetime mate and not just a hook up Is it okay for a woman to pursue a man for this intent? Is there anything instinctual in a man to want to choose his mate or is it acceptable to a man for the woman to choose him?

I responded with this article: http://www.jermaineharris.com/2009/08/the-hunted-becomes-the-hunter-dating-2009/

I went to a “Stock Success System” seminar recently that’s part of the Rich Dad Education. What’s your advice for the public regarding stocks & options? Do you recommend the public get involved with trading? I’ve been advised by stock brokers who’ve been trading for years to not practice trading. If I’d like to throw my money away on a 50/50 chance just go to Vegas…I’ll have more fun! What are your thoughts?

The economy is cyclical, meaning it goes up and down in a cycle. Also, joblessness and despair goes up and down, when joblessness is at relative highs, consumer sentiment is negatively affected as well. In times where large companies are laying off and many people, such as laid off stock traders have a lot of time on their hands, they take advantage of peoples anxiety with how to, get rich quick, seminar this and workshop that. So you gain a bit of knowledge and a bunch of courage to do something that many who are trained for years may have recently failed at.

Remember, this is a competitive capitalistic economy where greed rules all. No one is really trying to teach others to get rich. They are trying to get rich by selling you something.

However, now is the perfect time to invest in Stocks or Real Estate if you have the cash flow and the long time horizon to wait on the profit.

If you invest in the stock market:
1. You should learn what “Dollar Cost Averaging” is and find 2 to 5 good mutual funds and invest in those for a long term investment.
2. Do not buy bonds at all at this point in the market, they are a terrible bet given this cycle.
3. If you invest in individual stocks, be aware of the risk involved. it should be with money that you don’t need, and don’t care if you loose it. If that’s the case, go for it.
4. Stocks are low and moving upward, this is a great time to take excess cash and learn about the markets.

Good luck

Professor Harris
I have a question regarding tariffs. On the quantitative analysis do we have to include total industry revenue at equilibrium price, world price and tariff price? If so how do we calculate it?

I did not instruct the class to get all three total revenues. The way I described it in class was to find the total industry revenue at equilibrium price only. Yet your answer would be more complete and potentially improve your grade if you include the following as well:

-Total industry revenue at world price- by adding the U.S. supplier revenue and the Import revenue.
-Total industry revenue at tariff price- by adding the U.S. supplies revenue, Import revenue and government tariff revenue.

Jermaine,
Can I ask you a question? My man and I have been dating and pretty serious for a little over a year. Recently he has been more demanding, possessive and suspicious of my every move. My girlfriends say its probably because of insecurities of his own because he is out on me. I need some answers but first I want some advice on how to approach this. Should I be worried with his change in behavior or should I comfort him? I hate feeling this constant pain of uncertainty. Any advice will be helpful.

Thanks, L

LB
If you are having feelings, you should come out and tell him. You can tell your man anything, but the most important part is how and when. Either way it will be said. For example when he questions you, say in the sweetest non confrontational voice, “I’m worried about this new found insecurity baby…am I less trustworthy now, or is their something that you are doing that is playing tricks on your mind?” Don’t wait for or expect an answer, just go about your day so he can process that information. You are not trying to start a conversation because he probably couldn’t give you a true answer at that point. But you just want to make him think so he will stop that behavior.

Hey J Harris,

Haven’t been to the site in about 6 months glad to see your content is still awesome. Keep up the good work.

LJ

Hello Mr. Harris,

I am so glad I finally logged on to view your site. Next time I see you on the elevator I can say that I have actually logged on. I will share this information with my husband. This site has so much to offer. I cannot wait to log back on after work.