Comments on: Maturity

By: J Harris

J Harris — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 16:38:54 +0000

If what you do or how you interact with people places you in a situation that you didn’t intend on being, and you constantly create a disadvantage to yourself, that may be due to immaturity. But if you want to be left alone and don’t care how people react to you being honest, you may lack tact but your maturity is not at question.

By: Elisa

Elisa — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 16:02:09 +0000

Man o man, that tickled me to pieces! Jermaineharris.com, you never know what you just might get…gotsta love it! Seriously, my initial question was not speaking of deciete and/or the ability to be sneaky and not get caught but to get the perspective of others on how much does immediate gratification actually effect ones maturity. For example, if someone is cognizant to the possibility that what they are about to do or say may hurt someone but they find this exchange of necessity, does that make them immature? When does that fine line fade?

By: J Harris

J Harris — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 06:02:07 +0000

I’m not sure if maturity and deceit are in direct corrilation. If what you do comes to light is more of a matter of luck, especially when someone else is involved. You can be very careful and out of the blue your secret is out, mature or not. But hey, do you… sneaky bitch.

By: Elisa

Elisa — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 23:33:32 +0000

I’m not sure if I want to take this bait but for the sake of honesty, I’ll say… RIGHT! I think everyone has a hint of deceitfulness in their character, that is human nature to push the envelop. But since you bring up secrets or “what they don’t know won’t hurt”, is that immature to believe that unless ones deceit is done solo it has the chance to come to light? They also say “what is done in the dark will come to light” (or something like that)! Personally, I’m not very open in speaking about my personal affairs so private comes disguised as deceit. A lot of my friends refer to me as “sneaky bitch” because they never know what and who I’m doing it with. So much like your “scandalous” posting, there are a lot of things “I” will take to my grave, but will others? I think you need to be a mature person in choosing your partner in crime…or go Solo!

By: J Harris

J Harris — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 20:37:21 +0000

If you are realistically taking the consequences into consideration you can be mature and make those risky decisions at the same time. But suffering consequences may spill over to other people’s lives, causing them to judge and label you. For example, if you die, your children may loose out. If your personal quest causes you to break someone’s heart that was depending on you, those people impacted may consider you irresponsible and/or selfish for not considering their dependence on you to protect their interest. But if you get away with it, what they don’t know won’t hurt… right?

By: Elisa

Elisa — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 18:47:44 +0000

If one is able to filter and is completely knowledgeable of the possible effects of their “immediate gratification” but does not mind the consequence or care to abstain from the behavior, then what does that make them? Ignorant, narcissistic, rude, impolite? Just wondering!

By: J Harris

J Harris — Fri, 28 Nov 2008 07:35:38 +0000

If we are mature enough to submit to a higher source of wisdom and step out on that base, we can draw power from that source. Biblical wisdom is perfect in that it can’t backslide or be hypocritical. Yet it is open to individual interpretation as well as hypocritical application.

By: mrsfinney

mrsfinney — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 01:00:01 +0000

I have found that the best way to mature is to use Godly Wisdom. This is found in the Bible in the book of The Proverbs. I like the Amplified Bible because it really amplifies the words. Starting with Proverbs 1:23, 1:33, then throughout The Proverbs, Chapter 2:6-7, 3:2-5, 2:13, which says “Happy-blessed, fortunate, enviable-is the man (woman) who finds skillful and Godly wisdom, and the man (woman) who gets understanding-drawing it forth from God’s word and life’s experiences.”
Using Godly Wisdom allows one to make wise, insightful, mature decisions, even as a teen.

By: J Harris

J Harris — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 08:30:29 +0000

Great points, in a soon to be released blog I will address people finding themselves. The title will be “Social Contracts”. This deals with the first social contract we all sign in our “Freshmen stage”, trying to fit in at high school. Throughout a persons life, he/she may make a better decision as to what social contract they want to follow throughout their adulthood. People can sign new social contracts often, for example, having a daughter will change a mans world.

By: StevenW

StevenW — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 02:27:34 +0000

I think maturity stems from wisdom. When I use this word, im using it to show that you dont always have to experience things to figure things out because a wise man will see another person do something and use the outcome from that situation to test how they will then approach the situation. However, certain experiences are inevitable and how we apply that to our lives shows a measure of maturity.
Maturity also stems from knowing who you are. Many who are immature have something to prove to others, whereas many who are said to be mature only have to prove things to themselves. A sense of security and pride of who we makes one mature. Sadly it takes people years to be grounded in who they are, which is why you see 15-25 year olds struggling with this. Many do not know who they are. And finding maturity is not limited to this age group either, because if we are talking about men being mature, many don’t even know what it is to be a man either. So let us take time to be wise and not try to please others because if you stand for nothing, you will fall for anything.